Going out with someone shouldn’t be difficult
I left one of the men I loved after discovering that he was sleeping with a (former) close friend. He was already disrespecting what we had and sleeping with my friend was the last straw.
How could a man pretend to love me hurt me so much? Was what was between us real? Am I missing subtle signals? Was I not enough for him?
I gave him my heart, my loyalty, my efforts, and my body. I was an ear to listen to and a shoulder to lean on when he needed support. But have I ever been worth it?
God only knows how many sleepless nights I spent. I gathered the little dignity I had left and I left without looking back. I couldn’t believe that in addition to breaking my heart, it had wasted my time. What cheekiness!
The months passed and going out with someone seemed difficult. I was anxious and had no confidence in the opposite sx. Whenever I made friends with a boy, it made me sad because I knew that nothing else would happen. I was too scared to fall in love at the time.
A year passed before I met a man. I expected nothing from him since I had lost in the opposite sx all the time. My trust issues were deep and I didn’t want to get too involved in friendship.
But he persisted and kept asking me out. I found him genuinely funny and so I continued to frequent him. Six months later, I realized that I was starting to have feelings for him. We both knew we liked each other but he didn’t know I fell in love with him. Why wouldn’t it have happened?
He was courteous, friendly, knew how to listen and cared sincerely about what I had to say. He taught me that love was not supposed to hurt and thanks to it, I overcame many obstacles.
Respect is more important than love
Have you ever seen a couple (either strangers or, as in my case, a friend and boyfriend) arguing, and then the man got mad and started insulting his girlfriend?
If you are dating a man who does not know how to handle his anger to the point where he becomes verbally abusive, then this love is questionable. When is love supposed to turn into abuse?
I am unable to give up self-respect for your love. You can keep your love and I will keep my respect. Amit Kalantri
In a healthy relationship, respect is more important than love. Because when there is respect, everything else follows. It’s strange that people think that all a couple needs are love. But respect is essential. You can’t love someone you don’t respect.
Not only does he respect you, but he also respects what is between you. He knows that this so-called “relationship” bubble is extremely fragile and must be protected.
Note: when a man really loves you, the other girls are nonexistent because his loyalty only goes to you. Not only out of respect for you, but also for himself and for his word.
We don’t choose those we fall in love with, but we decide who we respect. You cannot control love, it is unconscious but respecting someone is a personal choice (it is a conscious decision).
A man loves you when he is respectful in his words, his gestures, his efforts, and his thoughts.
He will tell you but he will not misuse it
Don’t you find it strange that a man can meet you at noon and be in love with you at midnight? How is it possible? How can a man make such a bad use of such a strong word with a stranger? How? ‘Or’ What? If a man ever tells you that he loves you very quickly, please be skeptical. He’s not in love with you, he probably only wants one night out and would do everything he can to get your pants off as quickly as possible.
Note: do not confuse determination and true love. It has nothing to do.
I remember the time when I told my boyfriend that I loved him; I said it first and he said nothing to me. He didn’t want to tell me just because I told him, but only once he really felt it. I didn’t push him because I knew if he really loved me, I would be the first to know. His decision allowed me to respect him even more. And when he did say it, I thought the wait was well worth it.
He lets his actions speak for him
If I had received one euro every time a man said sweet words to me to disappoint me later, I would probably be among the 100 biggest fortunes today.
I have seen many women believe in words that come out of a man’s mouth, but become blind to his actions. He says he cares about you but his actions say just the opposite. He says you can count on him, but when you need him, he’s not there. He makes you a promise but breaks it every time.
As women, we must pay attention to actions, not words.
The superior man is the one who first puts his words into practice, and then speaks in accordance with his actions. – Confucius
I would choose a man who lets his actions speak for him, rather than a man who just talks. If you go out with a man who is just nice words, offer him to another for free.
If a man really loves you, not only will he tell you but he will show it to you. He will make you a priority and keep his promises. If he tells you he’ll be home at 8:00 p.m., wait for him at 7:59 p.m.
PS: he will always compromise for you
He treats you like a queen
I haven’t had the chance to date men with chivalrous behavior. Maybe they didn’t like me enough, but I still had the hope that they would be warm, protective and loyal men, in a world that seemed to be without them. But that had nothing to do with my tendency to watch Ryan Gosling movies and hope for my own gentleman.
But when I started going out with my boyfriend, he showed me how a gentleman was supposed to treat his lady. I was amazed to the point that I couldn’t understand how I had been able to settle for mediocre loves, without knowing that I deserved to be treated much better.
And he showed it to me in a subtle way: insisting on walking on the sidewalk on the sidewalk, to protect myself; or by not starting to eat, when my dish hadn’t arrived yet.